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Why Men & Women Mistaken Physical Attraction for

Let’s start with learning what physical attraction is.

What is physical attraction?

physical attraction - a desire for sexual intimacy

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Physical attraction (or lust) generally begins during our first contact with someone.

(And for most especially women this is where the misunderstanding/confusion begins.)

What is physical attractiveness?

Physical attractiveness is the perception of the physical traits of an individual as being aesthetically pleasing or beautiful. The term often implies sexual attractiveness.

Sexual attraction

Sexual attractiveness or sex appeal can refer to anything which has the ability to attract the sexual or erotic interest of a person. The attraction can be to the physical or other quality or trait of a person, or to such quality in the context in which it appears. The attraction may be to a person's looks or movements or to their voice or smell, besides other factors. The attraction may be enhanced by a person's adornments, clothing, perfume, hair style and anything else which can attract the sexual interest of another person. It can also be influenced by individual genetic, psychological or cultural factors, or to other, more amorphous qualities of the person. Sexual attraction is also a response to another person, that depends on a combination of the person possessing the traits and also on the criteria of the person who is attracted.

What is the causes physical attraction?

Physical attraction (or lust) generally begins during our first contact with someone. It can DEVELOP into something more over time, yet some pull is there from the beginning. The chemical that results from this attraction (and intensifies it) is phenyl ethylamine - or PEA. It is a naturally occurring substance in the brain. Essentially, it is a natural amphetamine. It stimulates us and increases both physical and emotional energy. The attraction causes us to produce more PEA, which results in those dizzying feelings associated with romantic love. Another substance that is released by PEA is dopamine. This chemical increases a desire to be physically close and intimately connected.

When these chemicals are being secreted in larger doses, they send signals from the brain to the other organs of the body. If you wonder why you or someone is attracted to the "wrong" person, it may be because you are high on the physical response to these substances, which overwhelm your ability to use your head and exercise "good judgment and common sense".

"Spiritual affinity" develops over time and repeated contact. When these feelings begin to emerge, the brain produces endorphins. These are more like morphine and result in an increased sense of calm that reduces anxiety and helps to build attachment. As relationships move into this phase they are characterized by more comfort, commitment and friendship.

Generally speaking, all "soul mate relationships" require at least some measure of each of these. The important thing to remember is that they come in stages, which is not to say that the physical attraction passes as one moves into a deeper connection. However, it changes. We cannot sustain those intense emotions as we travel down the road to commitment and a shared life. However, in healthy relationships those moments of intensity can and do occur for brief intervals at intermittent times.

Remember not to confuse great sex or deep friendship with romantic love. Instead, look for a measure of both of these in your feelings for another. For then you have the ingredients that lasting love is made from.

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Five Signs of Physical Attraction
By: Jennifer Maughan

By identifying certain signs of attraction, you may feel confident in taking things to a deeper level of intimacy. When someone catches your eye and you find yourself physically attracted to them, you might wonder if they feel the same way.

Prolonged eye contact
This is the best way to attract attention and indicate that you are noticing the other person. Because eye contact is a very personal thing, it isn't done often or for long in polite society. Eye contact should be friendly and accompanied by a smile.

Lips
Gently biting or licking the lips is a subtle way to indicate desire. The lips are very sensitive and an important body part when it comes to intimacy. This kind of attention to the lips makes them redder and more moist-a universally attractive quality. Men might purse their lips together in a subtle manner, while a woman may bring her necklace up to playfully toy with.

Crossing the legs
When a woman crosses and uncrosses her legs, it draws attention to her legs and groin area. When the gesture is made with an adjustment to clothing, such as to arrange a skirt to show more skin, it's an unmistakable message that someone finds you attractive. Men often don't sit with their legs crossed, but may sit or stand with their thumbs tucked into their belt loops, subconsciously drawing attention to the groin area.

Touch
When he touches your hand, arm or shoulder, it's a sign that he's eager for physical contact. It may progress to gentle caressing or touching your hair. Some people rhythmically caress themselves, such as rubbing their arm or neck, in a subconscious attempt to show that they are interested in getting physical.

Proximity
Nothing says intimacy like how far from each other you are. If he's constantly leaning in to you, whispering in your ear, squeezing next to you in a crowded room or putting his arms around you, then the attraction is stronger than ever. Similarly, women might position themselves to be close to a man's chest or shoulder so she can lean on it flirtatiously. Whispering secrets is a thrilling and intimate way to communicate interest as well.

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Ms. Bridgé
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Alot of men and women when they first start dating (especially women) are to afraid to admit they have more of a physical/sexual attraction to the person they are dating.

And why shouldn't they. Until you get to know someone physical attraction is all he or she has to go on.

How many times have you found yourself saying I like that guy across the bar.

How do you know?

You haven't held a conversation with him. For goodness sake you know absolutely nothing about him to determine that.

And this is where for most men and women the misunderstanding starts.

You mistaken finding something about him that attractives you to him, to Liking him.

We all have a type of man or woman that we are attracted to. (Get use to saying That Attracted to, Not Like).

But being attracted to the way someone looks, smells or dresses is not the same thing as Liking the person.

Once you learn the difference you will find yourself in more healthier and lasting relationships.

What I've written is my opinion and views on why Men & Women Mistaken Physical Attraction for Like or Love.

I hope this enlightens you all and puts you on the road to happiness and love.

Ms. Bridgé

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